Walking into your first IEP meeting can feel overwhelming. The unfamiliar terminology, the table full of educators, and the weight of advocating for your child’s future—it’s completely normal to feel anxious or uncertain. Many parents describe that first meeting as intimidating, but remember: you are the expert on your child, and your voice is essential to this process.
As a parent in Virginia Beach, you’re not alone in this journey. With preparation and knowledge of the local procedures, you can become a confident and effective advocate for your child’s educational needs.
Virginia Beach-Specific IEP Procedures
Virginia Beach City Public Schools (VBCPS) follows a structured special education process that includes identification, referral and screening, evaluation, eligibility determination, IEP development, placement decisions, and regular reevaluations.
The Timeline
In Virginia Beach, once a referral for special education is received, the school has 65 business days to complete all evaluation components and determine eligibility. If your child is found eligible, an IEP team must develop the IEP within 30 calendar days of the eligibility determination.
Draft IEPs
Virginia Beach schools must provide parents with any draft IEP at least two business days before the scheduled meeting. This gives you time to review the proposed goals and services and prepare your questions or concerns.
The Special Education Committee (SEC)
In Virginia Beach, eligibility for special education is determined by the Special Education Committee (SEC). This committee analyzes evaluation data to determine if your child meets the criteria for having a disability and requires special education services due to an adverse educational impact.

With preparation and knowledge of the local procedures, you can become a confident and effective advocate for your child’s educational needs
Essential Documents to Bring and Review
Being prepared with the right paperwork helps you participate fully in the IEP process:
- Previous evaluations and reports: Bring copies of any private evaluations, medical reports, or previous school assessments.
- Current report cards and progress reports: These provide concrete examples of your child’s academic performance.
- School communications: Include emails or notes from teachers about your child’s challenges or successes.
- Sample work: Bring examples that illustrate both your child’s strengths and areas of need.
- Your own notes: Document specific concerns, questions, and goals you have for your child.
- Virginia’s Parent’s Guide to Special Education: This resource explains your rights and the special education process. (Available on the Virginia Department of Education website)
Preparing Your Child’s Strengths and Challenges Summary
Before the meeting, create a concise document (1-2 pages) highlighting:
Strengths Section
- Academic areas where your child excels
- Social skills and friendships
- Special interests that motivate learning
- Extracurricular activities and talents
- Learning preferences and successful strategies
Challenges Section
- Specific academic difficulties with examples
- Social or behavioral challenges
- Environmental factors that impact learning
- Previous interventions and their results
- Areas where support is most needed
This summary keeps the meeting focused on your whole child, not just their challenges, and helps the team understand your child’s unique needs.
Effective Communication Strategies with School Staff
Successful IEP meetings depend on productive communication:
Before the Meeting
- Request a list of attendees so you know who will be present
- Share your concerns and questions with the case manager in advance
- Consider bringing a support person (friend, family member, or advocate)
During the Meeting
- Use “we” language to foster collaboration: “How can we help Sam feel more comfortable participating in group activities?”
- Ask for clarification when you don’t understand terminology
- Take notes or request permission to record the meeting
- Focus on solutions rather than problems
Helpful Phrases
- “Can you help me understand how this accommodation will work in the classroom?”
- “Based on my observations at home, I’ve noticed that…”
- “What specific data do we have about how this strategy is working?”
- “I’d like to revisit this point before we conclude.”
- “Let’s schedule a follow-up to check on progress.”
Rights Specific to Virginia Parents in the IEP Process
As a Virginia parent, you have specific rights in the special education process:
- The right to receive a draft IEP at least two business days before the meeting
- The right to request an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE) if you disagree with the school’s evaluation
- The right to have disputes resolved through mediation or due process hearings
- The right to have your child continue receiving services during disputes (stay-put provision)
- The right to participate in all decisions about your child’s education
- The right to review all educational records
- The right to be informed about your child’s progress at least as often as parents of children without disabilities
Moving Forward with Confidence
Remember that an IEP is a living document that can and should be adjusted as your child grows and their needs change. Don’t hesitate to request additional meetings if you feel the plan isn’t working or if new concerns arise.
Developing a collaborative relationship with your child’s educational team is the most effective way to ensure their success. By preparing thoroughly, communicating clearly, and knowing your rights, you can navigate the IEP process in Virginia Beach Schools with confidence.
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